When I decided to big chop, I only thought about whether or not it would work for me. I didn’t consider anyone else’s feelings, because truth be told it’s my head and I decide what to do with it. However when I saw myself in the mirror, I immediately thought my husband was going to hate it. It was so short and I didn’t look like myself anymore. I was so nervous I began shaking. Luckily, he was away on business so I didn’t have to face him right away, but I did send him a picture and to my surprise HE LOVED IT!
Even though he liked it, I don’t think it would have matter that much to me if he didn’t I know, you are probably saying well why were you so nervous? I am not sure why I was nervous, I think it was just a normal reaction to a major moment in my life. To be honest, I have always done whatever I wanted and not worry about other people’s opinions. However, as I get deeper into my natural hair journey, I’m seeing there are a lot of issues naturals struggle with, approval and acceptance being near the top.
I have read countless posts about women saying their significant other hated their hair. But is having your significant others approval that important? Would it be a source of tension in the relationship? Or, would you consider relaxing again? My opinion is to be true to who you are and those that love you will follow suit. I don’t always agree with what my husband says and/or does, and nor should I. The disagreements make for great entertainment sometimes. The beauty of relationships is that they are not perfect. It’s ok to agree to disagree on some things, hair being one of them. It’s just hair and hair grows back, changes often, and can be “remixed” in a matter of seconds.
So let’s hear it, what would you do if your significant other hated your natural hair?